A lot of people here on the OPBlocks forums have been talking about going through depression and about suffering mentally so I thought that this thread would be good to create so that everyone could share their problems, experience and suggestion so that we can provide support to those who are in need.
My experience: When I was younger about 13, my life was trash. I had friends who weren't really friends, exams that never seemed to give me good results, a Father who loved drinking and although he wasn't abusive, I got my fair share of beatings. I got into the wrong company in school and did things that damaged my health and my character. Most Teachers thought I was just a disrespectful kid who was too immature to handle any responsibility. At home I would cry for 2-3hrs and no one would notice me in my room. The one or two times my dad saw me crying, he would pick me up, look me straight into the eye and slap me down again. He would then ask me three questions which I clearly remember. Are you going through war? Are you being physically tortured? Are you dying of sickness? Usually I would answer no to all of them and my Father would tell me that I have no reason to cry then. My dad was religious but other than that he would not believe anything he cannot see such as depression. My dad's logic was that if you didn't have friends, it's not because depression made you antisocial. It's because you didn't try hard to enough to be friendly. If you didn't get good results it's not because you are going through a lot of stress. It's because you didn't study hard enough. If you want to end your life, it's not because you are going through depression. It's because you made wrong decisions in your life and you use depression as an excuse to hide these decisions and throw your life away. I grew up in this environment where depression did not exist and I used to be so pissed at my parents for not understanding the mental pain I was experiencing. My Mom brought me for 2 therapy sessions. For about $250 the Therapists would make me feel good about myself and give me reasons why my life was worth living. I never found any of it useful and it was then that i understood why my dad was always "tough" with me. Later on growing up I got accustomed to my parents and I stopped believing in depression. Whenever I felt sad I blamed it on myself and I tried to make myself happy again. This was my experience.
Suggestions:
Share your problems with your friends and family. Most problems can be solved through hardwork and effort. There is always a reason why one could feel sad or depressed and there is always a way to solve the problem. No one needs to fix the problem all be themselves. It is much easier to do with when you have help. You feel better with less weight on your shoulders.
My experience: When I was younger about 13, my life was trash. I had friends who weren't really friends, exams that never seemed to give me good results, a Father who loved drinking and although he wasn't abusive, I got my fair share of beatings. I got into the wrong company in school and did things that damaged my health and my character. Most Teachers thought I was just a disrespectful kid who was too immature to handle any responsibility. At home I would cry for 2-3hrs and no one would notice me in my room. The one or two times my dad saw me crying, he would pick me up, look me straight into the eye and slap me down again. He would then ask me three questions which I clearly remember. Are you going through war? Are you being physically tortured? Are you dying of sickness? Usually I would answer no to all of them and my Father would tell me that I have no reason to cry then. My dad was religious but other than that he would not believe anything he cannot see such as depression. My dad's logic was that if you didn't have friends, it's not because depression made you antisocial. It's because you didn't try hard to enough to be friendly. If you didn't get good results it's not because you are going through a lot of stress. It's because you didn't study hard enough. If you want to end your life, it's not because you are going through depression. It's because you made wrong decisions in your life and you use depression as an excuse to hide these decisions and throw your life away. I grew up in this environment where depression did not exist and I used to be so pissed at my parents for not understanding the mental pain I was experiencing. My Mom brought me for 2 therapy sessions. For about $250 the Therapists would make me feel good about myself and give me reasons why my life was worth living. I never found any of it useful and it was then that i understood why my dad was always "tough" with me. Later on growing up I got accustomed to my parents and I stopped believing in depression. Whenever I felt sad I blamed it on myself and I tried to make myself happy again. This was my experience.
Suggestions:
Share your problems with your friends and family. Most problems can be solved through hardwork and effort. There is always a reason why one could feel sad or depressed and there is always a way to solve the problem. No one needs to fix the problem all be themselves. It is much easier to do with when you have help. You feel better with less weight on your shoulders.